Do you ever feel lonely?
Recently, I was at an event full of people. Everyone else seemed gabby and like they were effortlessly making easy connections with others. I just felt out of sorts. Someone had said something to me earlier that day that hurt my feelings and knocked me off kilter. It was one of those, “I would really like to be at home alone, in a bubble bath, eating something chocolate -kind of nights. But I had to go to this outing, so here I was- lonely.
I politely smiled my way through the evening and finally got to go home. As I crawled into bed that night, I asked Jesus, “why am I letting some thoughtless comment made my someone affect me like this?”
There was no deep explanation. There was no Bible verse that instantly popped into my head. There was no sudden rush of peace through my heart. Only a very gentle reminder in the depths of my soul that Jesus loves me- insecurities and all.
Jesus loves me. That simple little song that I learned all those years ago. Very simple yet so powerfully profound, that one statement grounds me in the truth of who God says I am. Friends can’t make you feel accepted all the time. Accomplishments will never truly make you feel secure. Having lots of people around you does not mean you won’t ever feel lonely. And chocolate, while it is deliciously distracting, is just a little too temporary.
So, I turn to the One who is Everlasting, Prince of Peace, Emmanuel- God with us. I draw close to Him so He can help me separate solid truth from shifting emotion. And I remember, I’m never alone.
“Hear my cry, O God;
listen to my prayer.
From the ends of the earth I call to you,
I call as my heart grows faint;
For you have been my refuge,
a strong tower against the foe.
I long to dwell in your tent forever
and take refuge in the shelter of your wings.”
Proverbs 61: 1-4
One Cool Christmas Give Away---
This weekend's winners of Sandra Aldrich's give away are:
Terri Sue
Kim W
Denise from Indiana with twin boys
Congrats! Please e-mail me with your contact info at Lysa1@Proverbs31.org. Thanks to everyone who posted this weekend! So many great tip and recipes---yum!
Now for Today's Two Give Aways sponsored by Glynnis Whitwer and Tracie Miles---
First Prize-
Glynnis Whitwer is giving away a copy of her book, "Work @ Home," along with a set of decorative files to help get you organized and looking good!
Glynnis Whitwer is on staff with Proverbs 31 Ministries as the senior editor of the “P31 Woman.” She is also the author of “work@home: A Practical Guide for Women who Want to Work at Home.” Both Glynnis and her husband work from home and one of their businesses is http://www.roselanecottage.com/, specializing in decorative home office and organizational accessories.
This month, Glynnis would like to give away a set of decorative files of your choice to help you jump-start your New Year’s organization resolutions.
Additionally, throughout the month of January, Glynnis will be doing a home office organization series on her blog at http://www.glynniswhitwer.com/. If getting your paper, files and desk under control is on your to-do list, be sure to visit Glynnis’ blog for daily tips and techniques.
The Next Prize-
Tracie Miles is giving her book and CD message both with the title, "Reinventing Your Rainbow."
Tracie has been married to her husband Michael for 17 ½ years and has three children. She lives in Charlotte, NC. She is a Women’s Ministry Director, an author and a speaker with Proverbs 31 Ministries. Tracie has a heart for God and a passion for helping women discover the abundant joy that God can bring into their lives through being obedient to God’s will and having a true heart for servant leadership.
The book title is “Reinventing Your Rainbow: A Spiritual Journey of Leaving the Dark Shadows of Satan’s Bondage to Discover the Magnificent Colorful Rainbow That God Holds For Your Life”. It Is a book to encourage women to allow God to use their life experiences, good and bad, to bring glory to Him and minister to others. It will motivate women to remove their masks and be proud of their true identities and what God has done in their life through their experiences. The Audio CD is entitled “Reinventing Your Rainbow” as well.
To visit Tracie's website click here.
So, post a comment by clicking on the word "comments" below and you'll be registered to win one of today's Give Aways.
Merry Christmas!!!
Recently, I was at an event full of people. Everyone else seemed gabby and like they were effortlessly making easy connections with others. I just felt out of sorts. Someone had said something to me earlier that day that hurt my feelings and knocked me off kilter. It was one of those, “I would really like to be at home alone, in a bubble bath, eating something chocolate -kind of nights. But I had to go to this outing, so here I was- lonely.
I politely smiled my way through the evening and finally got to go home. As I crawled into bed that night, I asked Jesus, “why am I letting some thoughtless comment made my someone affect me like this?”
There was no deep explanation. There was no Bible verse that instantly popped into my head. There was no sudden rush of peace through my heart. Only a very gentle reminder in the depths of my soul that Jesus loves me- insecurities and all.
Jesus loves me. That simple little song that I learned all those years ago. Very simple yet so powerfully profound, that one statement grounds me in the truth of who God says I am. Friends can’t make you feel accepted all the time. Accomplishments will never truly make you feel secure. Having lots of people around you does not mean you won’t ever feel lonely. And chocolate, while it is deliciously distracting, is just a little too temporary.
So, I turn to the One who is Everlasting, Prince of Peace, Emmanuel- God with us. I draw close to Him so He can help me separate solid truth from shifting emotion. And I remember, I’m never alone.
“Hear my cry, O God;
listen to my prayer.
From the ends of the earth I call to you,
I call as my heart grows faint;
For you have been my refuge,
a strong tower against the foe.
I long to dwell in your tent forever
and take refuge in the shelter of your wings.”
Proverbs 61: 1-4
One Cool Christmas Give Away---
This weekend's winners of Sandra Aldrich's give away are:
Terri Sue
Kim W
Denise from Indiana with twin boys
Congrats! Please e-mail me with your contact info at Lysa1@Proverbs31.org. Thanks to everyone who posted this weekend! So many great tip and recipes---yum!
Now for Today's Two Give Aways sponsored by Glynnis Whitwer and Tracie Miles---
First Prize-
Glynnis Whitwer is giving away a copy of her book, "Work @ Home," along with a set of decorative files to help get you organized and looking good!
Glynnis Whitwer is on staff with Proverbs 31 Ministries as the senior editor of the “P31 Woman.” She is also the author of “work@home: A Practical Guide for Women who Want to Work at Home.” Both Glynnis and her husband work from home and one of their businesses is http://www.roselanecottage.com/, specializing in decorative home office and organizational accessories.
This month, Glynnis would like to give away a set of decorative files of your choice to help you jump-start your New Year’s organization resolutions.
Additionally, throughout the month of January, Glynnis will be doing a home office organization series on her blog at http://www.glynniswhitwer.com/. If getting your paper, files and desk under control is on your to-do list, be sure to visit Glynnis’ blog for daily tips and techniques.
The Next Prize-
Tracie Miles is giving her book and CD message both with the title, "Reinventing Your Rainbow."
Tracie has been married to her husband Michael for 17 ½ years and has three children. She lives in Charlotte, NC. She is a Women’s Ministry Director, an author and a speaker with Proverbs 31 Ministries. Tracie has a heart for God and a passion for helping women discover the abundant joy that God can bring into their lives through being obedient to God’s will and having a true heart for servant leadership.
The book title is “Reinventing Your Rainbow: A Spiritual Journey of Leaving the Dark Shadows of Satan’s Bondage to Discover the Magnificent Colorful Rainbow That God Holds For Your Life”. It Is a book to encourage women to allow God to use their life experiences, good and bad, to bring glory to Him and minister to others. It will motivate women to remove their masks and be proud of their true identities and what God has done in their life through their experiences. The Audio CD is entitled “Reinventing Your Rainbow” as well.
To visit Tracie's website click here.
So, post a comment by clicking on the word "comments" below and you'll be registered to win one of today's Give Aways.
Merry Christmas!!!
102 Comments:
I understand how hurt feelings can have that effect. (((Lysa))) I think we all do. I'm glad you were encouraged by the truth of His love! He is good!
Blessings,
Leslie
www.homeschoolblogger.com/LeslieNelsen
I have completely felt lonely in a room full of people...most often at one of my husbands work events. My husband is quite intuitive though and will come to my rescue. The Psalm you quoted is great...thank you!
I would LOVE to win the work@home book as I've been considering this as a possibility for myself recently. Thanks for offering it!
This is my first posting on a blogspot. I can totally relate to the feelings of loneliness. I went to an open house today and took along my 12-yr-old niece. I held a precious, beautiful newborn baby boy and wept (my hubby and I are 45 and still childless). I lingered, even though I'd promised my niece we would leave early to go home and bake cookies. But I couldn't help noticing how much she was enjoying herself. So we ended up staying longer than planned. When we left, I felt completely drained and emotionally exhausted. I wondered - is it hormonal, related to personal unresolved issues, fear, holiday stress, or just being alive to my tender heart? I felt judged and labeled, and I wanted out of this "mislabeled" box. But then I did what I've learned to do when overwhelmed with such powerful feelings and emotions: I ran to my Heavenly Father. I prayed as I turned onto my street, "Father, would you go before me and prepare my home for me? Would you be there waiting for me, with cup of tea in hand? Would you hug me and remind me that I am precious to You? Would you fill our home with Your warm presence, so I can breathe You in when I walk in the door?"
And He did. And He led me to your website.
Thank you for the scripture... it's a wonderful reminder that rather than getting down on ourselves, that we need to turn to the One that made us perfectly!!
I love your blog! I prayed the scripture you posted and plan to spend a few more moments in prayer before getting back to work.
Thank you and God bless!
Good morning, lysa. It's morning here in Nigeria. Growing up in a third world country and loosing both parents at the age of 15, i have epxerienced being loney so many times, and becoming a single mother of 2 has added to it as well but glory to God almighty who has been faithful to me. In all these we are more than conquerors. God has been there. His love has been my anchor. His name, my solace. His peace, my balance. no matter where i am, i know i am not alone and his banner over me is love. Everything here on earth is temporary it's only our relationship with him that's most important. He alone can give us the assurance that can not be gotten anywhere. Everyday i thank God for my wonderful children and all my loved ones. I love them so much but none of them can fill that part of me that can only be filled by the redeemer of my soul. In the darkest, loniest hour he is there with his tender mercies and loving kindness. writting this makes me fall in love with him all over again. the lover of my soul. Thank God for the gift of JESUS and thank God for you Lysa and the proverbs 31 mimnistries.
Lysa,
Here I am reading your blog at 5:26 a.m. - couldn't sleep as to-do's and undone's were weighing on my mind. Just want you to know that Proverbs 31 and the Daily Devotionals have been such an inspiration to me. Often it seems y'all know exactly what I need when that day's devotion appears in my inbox. I went to church alone (well, with 3 of our 4 kids too) on Sunday, and even though I was surrounded by hundreds of other worshippers, I felt as though it was just me and our pastor there. He spoke on Joy and CHOOSING joy for your life. The crux of his message was that sometimes joy flows, sometimes it is easily found in the simplist things, and sometimes you have to fight for it. I'm fighting now! May you have JOY today, Lysa! You bring a great deal to others.
Hi Lysa! I am so glad glad God has called us to Himself, no matter how undeserving we are! May we all find encouragement and strength in Him in those lonely hours.
Blessings to all.
Lysa, thanks for the honest and humble post today. We've all been there and it was good to read your advice to turn to Jesus, but with simple expectations.
I'd love to have either of these prizes. Count me in!
Thanks,
Elisa
There are times that I have felt alone almost invisiable among a room full of people. But what you wrote was a reminder that we only need to stay close to our Lord Jesus Christ.
Tammy
Though we can sometimes be surrounded by others, it is so easy to feel lonely at times. I've felt this far too often in life! And I know it's been at those times that I've forgotten the Love that never leaves me or forsakes me. That love that has been there before I had entered this earth - the Love that died for me on the cross and rose so I could have eternal life with Him! It's when I remember this love that I recall I am NEVER alone. This is a great reminder right now, Lysa. At a time when we are rushing through life - we can tend to be surrounded yet feel alone. What an important time to regain this everlasting presence in our lives! Thanks!
Yes, Lysa, we all feel that way sometimes. I find it's a time for reflecting on God's love for us when this happens. I also enjoy "people watching" in a crowd like that. You can really tune into others' needs when you stop and listen/watch what is going on around you rather than being focused on conversation with others... a great time to just pray for people as you watch them in the crowd. As for the work at home package? I would love it as that is what I am doing every day.
The "rainbow" one sounds like the one for me!
Dear Lysa,
I'm enjoying regular visits with several Prov 31 blogs. Thanks for ministering out of your life into mine.
Jean
http://www.jeanmatthewhall.blogspot.com
Thanks for sharing this verse. I think I'll post it on my bathroom mirror for a while.
How true, how true. God is much less expensive and more guaranteed to help more than therapy and medication!
Wow...I felt you were reading my mind! I feel that way sometimes also...and I don't understand. In a room full of people and I can't connect to just one??? But your right...we are never alone. Our loving God is always right there with us. I've often sung that song "Jesus Loves Me" to myself when I've felt disconnected. Sometimes it just that simple song that helps me to remember he is close. Thanks so much for sharing!
Jesus loves me. Jesus loves ME. Jesus LOVES ME. JESUS LOVES ME. Oh, how sweet that sounds. When I was pregnant, my husband sang this song to my baby girl while she was growing inside me. Although the song was meant for her, it blessed my heart to hear the simple truth of Jesus' love. My daughter is now 3 months old (almost 4 months--YEAH!), and I sing it to her like this...Yes, Jesus love me, Yes, Jesus loves you, Yes, Jesus loves us, for the Bible tells me so. Oh, how I wish I could be at home with my little one. But we can't afford it, so she must be in daycare for now. Thank God for a Christian daycare with Christian teachers. My little girl's teacher sings, you guessed it, Jesus Loves Me to her every day, among other songs bearing simple yet profound Christian truths. Next time you are feeling lonely, or just the next time you feel like a blessing, pull out a child's Christian cd, and bless your heart with heartfelt messages straight from God's heart to yours. Merry Christmas, y'all!
Thank you so much for your blog...I love reading it every morning and being encouraged and meditating on our Lord's goodness! Thank you for the wonderful contest too!
I too can relate to the feelings of loneliness you spoke of. I'm guilty of blaming PMS and wallowing in it. You reminded me that at those times, I need to seek out the Lord.
I just read a devotion on getting hurt by what people have said to you. The devotion stated that you could do one of three things...
1. Find fault with the messenger
2. Internalize it so that it affects your self-esteem
3. Bring the critisism to God and ask him to reveal to you the truth in it. Allow Him to teach you where you may have blind spots in your character.
proverbs 24:26
Colossians 3:16
I really needed to read this. I get my feelings hurt way to much. Sometimes I think my expectations are to high, then I am hurt. Sometimes I am trying to hard, and I am hurt. I don't like someone else revealing to me my charactre flaws...ouch. Something I need to work on. My intentions are usually good. But at times I guess they don't come off that way.
Hugs to you, way back on that day....
Shannon
smarklow@gmail.com
My personal bout with MS has led me to no longer be working or driving. I am able to be home while hubby goes to work, but sometimes I feel SO lonely. Thanks for the reminder that I'm never really alone.
Sticks and Stones may break my bones but Words will never hurt me. Oh, how WRONG that is, isnt it?!? Words hurt,they hurt bad and a lot of times they hurt even worse, when they come out of our mouths. Fortunately we have God to get us through those ugly, lonely times! Merry Christmas!
Thanks so much for your insight. I have found myself in this position quite often. Insecurity is a strong weakness that I battle with daily. I have learned that the devil uses this insecurity to get me off track. Scripture is my weapon and now you have given me a great idea. I will sing Jesus Loves Me!! HAve a great day!!!
Good Morning all! Thank you Lysa again for always being real! Your blog/words always are an encouragement to me...I appreciate you more than you know - keep shining for Jesus! Todays ...never alone...is a great reminder to me that He will never leave us or forsake us. Even now when my life should be falling apart through the eyes of this world...I feel a great sense of peace - as I am drawing closer to him each and every day! All you bloggers out there...please pray for my dh as he has decided he wants to separate from me - he still wants a relationship with our children - but he is totally avoiding me - which makes me feel very alone at times...But praise God He is always with me. Thank you Lysa... tdm4him@yahoo.com
I understand that lonely feeling when many are around you. Thankyou for sharing your thoughts on this. God is truly wonerful.
I have the same problems at times, but frequently, well almost always I feel uncomfortable in social situations. I don't know why, but I feel this extremely unforgiving self-consciousness and sense of responsibility for being "happy". As though I were responsible for everyone elses happiness.
What a great reminder! Jesus Himself said he would not leave us as orphans but would send a Comforter! I am so thankful.
Linda in Idaho
Comments can bring us down ... I take them to heart too. Thanks for your encouragement to look to the One who loves us no matter what! I would love to win the
"Work at Home" book ... earlier this year I quit my job to stay home with our children. (We had recently moved and have no family nearby). This is the first time I have ever been without an outside job. We discussed this as a family and decided we would all make sacrifices for this to happen. We have 3 children (12,9 and 4). It would be great to find something I can do from home and be able to be spend time being here for my children.
May you have a blessed and beautiful Christmas!
It felt so good to read your post today. I often times feel like I am invisible in a large group of people. My husband is a social butterfly and has no problems talking to people and I am the exact opposite It is good to remember that Jesus is always with me
I came into my office this morning to try to make sense of this...for the past 1/2 year, I have started a business that requires me to be in here a lot. And with everything else that goes into our offices--it really needs help! Wow, could I use those organizers...Lysa, I loved the reminder of the verses from Proverbs. Isn't that just like us to be frustrated and at just the right time (God's time) we are given God's words to encourage us. Thank you.
That feeling of being alone in a crowd, is all too familiar. Some times it's not so bad, I like to sit back and observe all the people and their interactions. The times it is hardest is probably when I am at church, and my husband is at home. He hasn't been to church in over 3 years. I see all the couples together, and I feel as if half of me is missing. I try not to let if bug me, but it does.
Thanks for the post. The bible verse was encouraging.
In Him,
Amy T.
I love reading these. I'm gonna have to force myself to wait until lunch time at the office. Oh, in Sunday School yesterday, we had to introduce ourselves and say who we would pick if we could pick one famous person to have dinner with. I don't care if we have dinner or not, just want to get to know you better. I picked you:) Did you know you were famous? Of course, with the blogs and all, I feel like I know you already. Thanks for all the easily accessible encouragement:)
I love reading these. I'm gonna have to force myself to wait until lunch time at the office. Oh, in Sunday School yesterday, we had to introduce ourselves and say who we would pick if we could pick one famous person to have dinner with. I don't care if we have dinner or not, just want to get to know you better. I picked you:) Did you know you were famous? Of course, with the blogs and all, I feel like I know you already. Thanks for all the easily accessible encouragement:)
Your post of being lonely was me this weekend. Was at office function and I know everyone but didn't feel 'connected' to anyone. Just wanted to have a quiet and peaceful night at home. Felt like I was wasting my time and thoughts of my 'to do' list kept going through my head all night long. Wish I had your verse to cling to that night. Will keep it for future reference.
Reinventing Your Rainbow sounds very interesting. I was widowed at age 38 (4 years ago) and have had the opportunity to help other young widows but find myself backing away from them instead of helping them. Guess I need to learn how to use that 'experience' from God to help others and I pray about that often as I was helped greatly by another wonderful Christian woman who had been widowed early in life too and had gone on to get re married and have a wonderful life. Sadly she was killed is a car crash this past April and I miss her deeply. But I know she and my late husband are sharing lots of stories in heaven
God Bless
Loved this post! I often let the little things get to me, which leaves me frusterated and hurt a lot of the time. It's good to be reminded that it doesn't matter so much what others think of me. What matters is what God thinks of me. I know he loves me, and all I am and all I do is to his glory. I know there will be days that I'm not perfect, but he doesn't need me to be. He knows my heart and knows I love him!
Boy, can I relate to your story, Lysa! I love people, and I have been accused of being a human chatterbox at times, but there are some times and events where I, too, would love to have a date with my bubblebath and a rather huge slab of chocolate! I think being lonely in a huge group of people can be one of the most painful times I have experienced, but thank goodness we have Jesus who loves us ALL the time!
WOW - that book regarding working at home would be so wonderful to have as I am working on getting ready to write and speak full-time as a ministry, and this book would be a great resource!
Have a blessed day!
I just wanted to thank you for sharing what you are going through so open and honestly.
As a mother of four it is so encouraging for me to read your blog.
Thank you.
Tanya
This is a wonderful reminder - thanks for sharing!
Oh Lysa, I would love to be the recipient of Glynnis Whitwer's book "Work @ Home!!" I posted a comment on your blog, I don't want to be a big girl, telling you how I am expecting my first baby and really feel that God is calling me to be obedient and stay at home to raise my child. My husband is in agreement with me, however we are trying to figure out some way for me to generate income from home. I believe that God can and will see to it that we have something lined up by May, or shortly thereafter, in order for me fulfill His path for me. There's a lot more to this, I'm trying to give you the details without writing a short book here. Earlier this year, Feb. to be exact, I had a dream. In that dream God told me that I was to be a great wife and a great mother. Not just ordinary, but extraordinary. Before this dream I prayed because I was getting frustrated trying to find my calling, and I prayed out for a little glimpse of what He had in store for me. Also in my dream God told me to not be discouraged. That in time I would fulfill my duty to Him, and if He showed me all He expected of me that I wouldn't be able to handle it. Like a cake, you eat just one slice at a time, you cannot handle the whole thing. Well, when I awoke, I wasn't sure if this was from God. I went to work and shared this experience with my co-worker/good Christian friend. As I was finishing my dream, a lady entered my office (whom I attend church with) and said she has a word from God for me. As she began to tell me what God told her, I began to cry. Her word from God was exactly my dream, however she added one thing. She told me that God calls me Rachel, and that I was not His sheep, but a lamb instead because I have a lot to grow. That was my first word from my Heavenly Father, and I will spend all my days fulfilling it. All this said, this is why I believe I will be an honored recipient of Glynnis' book. Thank you for your time spent reading my blog. God bless you and your ministry! Have a Merry Christmas =o)
Keep um coming girl! You have this amazing way of reminding me to keep looking to God. He, and He alone, is able to supply all my needs.
I was just telling my husband last night that sometimes I wish I was a guy so that I wouldn't have to deal with all the emotions I feel. Not that guys don't have emotions but if you're a gal reading this~ you know what I'm talking about. I do feel so alone at times but often forget that nothing in this world can satisfy me like my heavenly Father can. Thanks for that reminder.
What a blessing your comments have been to me! Your words have encouraged me to become a better christian, wife and mother! Thank you so much! Keep up the good work! God Bless
The same thing happened to me this past Friday night at an adult Sunday school class party that I hosted. Something was said to me earlier that day by someone very close to me that was irrelevant to the party or Christmas for that matter but it truly hurt my feelings. I have prayed and prayed about the situation and I know God hears me but it is still all I can think about. My husband, who rarely notices much of anything, even commented yesterday at lunch that I seemed sad.
Thanks for the Psalms quote. It is reassuring to know that God's Word tells me He hears my cries.
I know it is a God thing that Proverbs 31 Ministries seems to always have just the right devotion or scripture to coincide with what I am experiencing in life at the exact time I receive it. It is awesome the way God works. Thanks for allowing Him to use you to speak to so many.
The same thing happened to me this past Friday night at an adult Sunday school class party that I hosted. Something was said to me earlier that day by someone very close to me that was irrelevant to the party or Christmas for that matter but it truly hurt my feelings. I have prayed and prayed about the situation and I know God hears me but it is still all I can think about. My husband, who rarely notices much of anything, even commented yesterday at lunch that I seemed sad.
Thanks for the Psalms quote. It is reassuring to know that God's Word tells me He hears my cries.
I know it is a God thing that Proverbs 31 Ministries seems to always have just the right devotion or scripture to coincide with what I am experiencing in life at the exact time I receive it. It is awesome the way God works. Thanks for allowing Him to use you to speak to so many.
I experienced those lonely feelings just yesterday.
I arrived at church...alone. My husband is not a believer and does not attend with me, and my six year old is battling with me right now over attending. She doesn't want to go, and when Daddy doesn't, sometimes it's difficult to enforce.
Anyway, I sat down, surrounded by several hundred people, and felt utterly and completely alone.
But then we stood and began to sing about our Savior who came to this world reminding me of why I am never truly alone.
The last song was the one with the chorus "I bring an offering of worship to my King. No one on earth deserves the praises that I sing. Jesus may you receive the honor that you're due. Oh Lord I bring an offering to You." As I lifted my hands to Him and offered up my praise, I knew I was not alone and my heart was filled to overflowing.
Thank you again, Lysa, for all that you and the others at P31 do!
Merry Christmas in His Love,
Dawn
godzgalzimageconsulting.blogspot.com
Lysa,
Thank you for sharing from your heart what God has poured into you. I too have often experienced that "lonely" feeling, even in the midst of church. My husband and I do children's ministry at our church, so we are only in 1 Sunday morning service every 2 months. I almost feel "out of place", as if I didn't belong, because we are not usually there. Thank you for the wonderful reminder that Jesus is always there for us, no matter how we feel.
Have a blessed day!
Donna L
Hey Lysa. Just wanted to share with you how God is working today. I didn't receive my Proverbs 31 devotion on Friday. For some reason it was collected and reported as spam. I released it from the spam report and noticed the title -- No More Pit Dwelling For Me. God knew I didn't need that message as much on Friday as I did on this Monday morning. I appreciate you sharing with other Christian women who need encouragement. Thank you and have a wonderful day!
Hi, Wonderful post today !! Jessica in Fl.
Thank you so much for your post. Sometimes I feel that it is only me who dwells on the one comment that was not nice. I also appreciate you direction of the verse...I am so appreciative how you always help direct us back to God's loving arms.
Thank you for today's message. For whatever reason, it seems this is a season for hurt feelings and feelings of loneliness. A reminder of our Rescuer constantly being with us is a blessing.
Thank you for such a great reminder of where my focus should always be. It strays too frequently it seems. Having changed churches this past year after attending one church for the past 15 years I have felt very alone at times. It is so comforting to know we have a refuge that is a Strong Tower!
Thank you for today's message. I too feel lonely in a room full of people at times. I thank God that I have a refuge in him and that there are scriptures that gives me peace and comfort in these times. I thank God for giving me that peace and comfort just when I need it most. He knows me better than anyone and loves me flaws and insecurities. I thank you for your wonderful devotions everyday.
Mostly I find myself letting comments from others reguarding the wonderful close sisterly relationship that I share with my best friend cause me to feel this way. It is sad to say but there are several women in our church family that are jealous of this relationship that the 2 of us share and Satan uses these ladies every chance he gets to tear holes in the strong fiber or our relationship. Well so far he has been completely unsuccessful in destroying the fiber, but completely successful in hurting my feelings and causing me to doubt my friend and the list goes on. I pray to God every chance I get and thank Him for this special friendship and ask him disengage the enemy. Your reminder is so wonderful and at the perfect time as I am sure they will be at it again when they figure out that my friend and I are closer than ever and will be sharing lots of quality alone time together this Christmas season. JESUS loves me this I know! for the Bible tells me so!
Merry CHRISTmas!
Janet Reno
jjreno@localnet.com
http://godislove-janet.blogspot.com/
Good morning. It seems I'm always the late mommy here.
Anyway, you're not alone. What a nugget God has revealed to you. I am blessed to have friends who knew that your ministry is what I needed. You are doing a great deed to bring God glory and honor and if I or anyone else has hurt your feelings in anyway, know that the enemy longs to bring you distress, but God longs to bring you peace.
I too, have dwell on those feelings. Just last week, I have a run-in with someone online. She was actually demeaning. But, God kept me at grace, and I'm so grateful I didn't attack her back. Lovingly and firmly I stated my faith and my belief and like you it took me awhile to let go. I find my comfort in Psalm 62:1-2, "My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken." I often had to ask myself "If God is for me, who can be against me." Not even her demeaning attitude cannot weigh me down.
And, now one correction: the passage you quoted is not found in Proverbs 61:1-4. I realize that you mistyped it, and the correct one, you meant is Psalm 61:1-4
God bless you and your ministry.
Shoua
Thank you Lysa. I totally related to this. I have felt this lonliness in a room full of people before. I thank our precious heavenly father that he loves us flaw and insecurities and all. I can always find comfort in his word. Thanks Lysa for daily renewing me with you devotions.
God Bless you and Merry Christmas,
Julia
Thank you for that reminder, Lysa. Jesus loves me!
Glynnis' book sounds wonderful - I've been a work-at-home mom for a few years and recently took a full-time job outside the home. I'm going back to work at home this summer (for good!) and would love to start out fresh this time with some organization tips! It's definitely been a struggle for me.
It was comforting enough to know that someone else felt that way but today's long long list of women who have been lonely in a crowd reminds me that sometimes the enemy knows EXACTLY how women are most vulnerable. That by itself is soooooo comforting. Maybe all of us can say a prayer just a moment of our day insulating us by His words.
Thanks so much for your insightful blogs and devotions. I really enjoy reading them every day. You are a wonderful inspiration and you have a lot of eye opening stories. The verses you choose to go with the daily story are wonderful and can be applied to my life daily. Thanks and Merry Christmas!
this blog really touched me today, thank you for your insight!
What a great post - thank you!
I'd love to win the book/organizer...I am in the process of starting up a business at home. :) Blessings!
Hi Lysa,
Reinventing your Rainbow sounds wonderful. About 4 years ago I was held in bondage of guilt and it hindered me from serving God. God kept whispering in my ear to confide in a specific friend but I resisted for a long time. Once I obeyed God and confided in this friend, God used her in my life to free me from guilt and shame. She had the same experience and I saw what a beautiful and vibrant servant she was for God's glory. God showed me how I can use the experiences and circumstances that hurt the most to help others.
It reminds me of how Mary went to Elizabeth. God had given Mary the most awesome privilege of the virgin birth but he also gave her the grace and friendship in Elizabeth to endure. God always gives us a way to endure and persevere. He is so good!
Thank you for your blog. Shannon Harrison
I just want to say that I have never been a blogger but since starting this contesst I have really enjoyed reading the blog. It's nice to see what other woman think. It is so very hard to be alone in a crowd, espesically when it's made up of family or loved ones. How nice to know Jesus loves us through it all.
I would love to have the work from home book. I am single mom that works full time and I attend college part time. Working from home would fulfill my dream of being able to go to school full time or at least closer than I am now!
Your post today really hit home for me...I can totally relate to feeling alone, even as I am surrounded by my small group. Thank you for the scripture - I think this is perhaps an area where God is trying to teach me something.
I am looking forward to Glynnis' blog tips on organization. Here is one tip for how I stayed focused and organized online...my husband recently found a way for me to keep up-to-date on all of the blogs I read, without having to check each one daily or try and remember the addresses. It's called "Great News" and it alerts me when blogs have been updated - here's the link with more info: http://www.curiostudio.com/
Cindy
http://adopttaiwan.wordpress.com
I truly understand how people's hurtful comments can make you feel. My husband and his family seem to take delight in hurting my feelings with the comments they make to me. They even seemed to step up their hurtful comments about 4 1/2 years ago. Since that time, I have curtailed my involvement with his family. It's kind of hard to cut back on time with him--but he's done that--he has started staying at work longer every day and then going to his workshop when he does get home to avoid being with me. We're more into a 'roommate' situation now. I retired from my job in February 2006 and until then didn't realize how many friends I didn't have...but it's been very lonely. I have one child (31 years old) and she is my only friend. Very lonely here. If it were not for having God to talk to, I'd be a nut case. Depressing life?? Only if I let it depress me.
I've gotten involved with a Ladies Bible Study and joined a couples Small Group Bible study...hubby doesn't want to go....but does. This is my way of being out with other people to make friends.
Hi Lysa
Thank you and the P31 team for bringing words of encouragement not just to the women in the States but also around the world. I am one grateful recipient of your outreach via the web through your daily devotions and now thru the blogs of you and the other team members. I am thankful to God for having all of you as partners in our pursuit of being Christ-centered, day in day out.
Keep up the good work & wishing everyone a wonderful Christmas and New Year!
Ruth Tan
Mother of 3 lovely girls fr Singapore
PS: Should I be picked for the giveaway, Glynnis Whitwer's book will be THE Christmas gift for me this year. I have heard and read very good reviews of this book, but have not been able to get a copy of it in my local bookstores. I know this book will not only help me in setting up a home business but most importantly, using my home business as a platform to draw more women and other people to know Christ and the true meaning of Christmas. This has always been a strong desire and burden that God had planted in my heart ever since the idea of setting a home business came about.
Lysa-
Thanks so much for relaying this story. I have felt this way so many times, but wondered if it was only me. I guess that's how many pity parties begin - thinking that there is no one else that understands. Thanks for the reminder that there is always someone who understands - My Jesus
Christie Todd
Lysa,
I can relate to feeling out of sorts. I have felt that way a lot this month. Not sure why. But I am blessed to know that God loves me even when I am out of sorts. He provides what I need, even when I don't know what that is.
Keep your spirits up!
Thank You for your blog. I had felt alone all my life, until God came into it. Praise You Jesus.
Debra
Lysa,
Oh How your words touched my soul. I have been where you were. Isn't it nice to know that God loves us right where we are. I think sometimes things happen because God wants to see if we will come to him for guidance, strength and a fill-up.
I'm so happy that I have him always to turn to.
Lisa
Love your blog and your comments today! I am beginning a Medical Transcriptionist business in january, so the helpful business organization things are much needed.
Ms. Lisa -
What a perfect reminder for me! Once again I have found myself struggling through a period of depression and for those who have never experienced this road, it is all about loneliness, sadness and despair. For those of us who live through these times, it is very real to us even though others may not understand. I have an incredible husband (married for 22 years) who has walked this road with me many times over the years and he has supported me all along the way. As I journal my way through each journey I experience I find that my victory through it all comes in realizing that I am never alone because I have Jesus and the power of His Spirit in my life. Even on the days when I can hardly put one foot in front of the other, God's word is that trusting reminder that no matter how I feel inside, He is there with me. It brings to mind a song from my younger days, "Oh What a Friend We Have In Jesus." I only ask through each journey that God will use me to reach into the lives of others who have traveled this road. May I remain faithful and I'm thankful for so many whose prayers sustain me through this time. Here's to victory in Jesus and knowing we are never alone! Blessings to you and your family this Christmas.
Theresa
Grand Junction, Colorado
Man o man do I ever feel this way sometimes. I have been a stay-at-home mom for the last 3 years and in certain groups it's so hard to feel you "belong". Thanks 4 reminding me that no matter how alone I feel God is always there...
I have felt alone in social situations before also. It usually happens when I already am having a bad day. Thanks for reminding us that God loves us always and that we are never alone because of him.
You're message was just what I needed to hear today! Thank you and Merry Christmas!
Tracy in CT
I enjoy going to parties and outings...but i, too, have felt alone at them. Especially at ones where you feel you have to really work at holding conversations. Your mind is always elsewhere and its unfortunate for those we meet to not have our full attention. Praise God that we see our 'malfunctions' and that He is so forgiving and we:
"Forget what is behind and strian toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:13-14
Amanda Werling-IN
I too feel alone often in big settings and am thrilled that we have the reassurance that our Lord loves us just as we are!
First, I want to say how much the Proverbs 31 daily e-mails mean to me. Lonliness show itself in many situations. I have seen my teenagers lonely in the midst of friends and activities. I was lonely when my husband and I graduated from college and all our friends went separate ways. I prayed that God would send us friends. He did! We have a group of friends that share the same faith and have been through many things together. Prayer is definitely the key.
Hi Lysa,
Thank you for the scripture today from (oops) Psalm 61. The Lord led me to the Psalms today during my prayer time. He really knew what I needed. I love how real David was with the Lord about his feelings... When I am hurting, I ask The Lord to "Please take it.", or "Please comfort me."... and He does again and again. I love Him so much! Laurie
I can completely relate to your message today. Thank you for the reminder that Jesus always loves us, no matter what. Inside we know that but sometimes it is tough to focus on that instead of our hurt.
Kristi Gerdon
Hey Lysa!
I understand that lonely feeling . . . . I'm probably too well acquainted with it. Yesterday, it settled in on me as well. I was greeted Sunday morning with an avalanche of snow to dig out from so I could make it to church, then a broken toilet, and when I got to church I was in a "recieve" mode. I ended up having to put the power point together in 10 minutes and run it. (It wasn't my week.) I didn't have a very gracious heart about it. I don't mind serving in this area, but it is sometimes hard because you and the sound people sit up in the loft area away from everyone. I was really feeling the need to connect. After service I was feeling so disconnected I fled before the tears started in earnest.
I have a friend who really neds to work from home. I need to check out Glynnis site for her.
I hope you are having a good day.
I know exactly how you feel, I find myself looking to chocolate when I feeling down or any form of candy, I will sulk in it because I feel like it might make me feel better. Sometimes it does, but eventually it won't completely satisfy me, only the Lord can do that, thanks for the inspiration, and have a blessed Christmas!
I have come to believe that God does some of his best work in us when we are lonely. We are vulnerable and more likely to turn to him instead of (even the most spiritual) co-workers, friends, husbands, and even pastors or other spiritual leaders. For the longest time I would turn to those I believe to be more spiritually mature than I hoping to gain some wisdom when what I should have been doing was opening my bible and drawing near to God for his words of encouragement. I've learned to thank our Lord each and every day for the many blessings in my life including the times where I've felt so broken and alone. Thanks for sharing Lysa!
I can also relate to those dreaded social gatherings. I would much rather be home, just never have been a party girl. I don't do crowds, noise and love solitude (I'm not lonely!) I know without a doubt that it was God's plan for me to be by myself right now. It has brought me closer to him and I am so grateful for things I took for granted.
I know God has great plans for me and if I learn to turn to him when I have trials, I will be a much better person that people will enjoy being around.
Would love the CD but honestly just reading your blog is encouragement for me!
Lysa,
I can truly identify with your message today about lonliness. On the 21 of this month marks the anniversary of my husbands passing. As busy as I am there are days that I still feel terribly alone. Yesterday was one of those days. I was snowed in and couldn't get to church, and I was having a royal pity party. I was remembering my son's first Christmas. My husband was a football player for the University of Nebraska and they were playing in the Orange Bowl on New Years day and the team and their wives were slated to leave for Miami December 23. Our son had just been born on the 12th and my dear father was flying in and taking him home to Michigan until we came back. For years I carried the guilt and the memory of being away from him on his first Christmas.
Yesterday as I was complaining to God about being lonely he told me to get busy and write. As I picked up my journal he put some words in my head that kept bouncing around and I sat down and wrote the following poem:
Just Another Poem About Christmas
We don’t need another poem about Christmas,
All the thoughts and words have been said-
But the sentiments and feelings I hold in my heart,
Keep twirling around in my head.
I remember the year, Nineteen Seventy,
In December our son, Danny, came,
I held him and loved him for only 10 days-
Then flew off to his Dad’s Orange Bowl Game.
I left my child at Christmas that year,
For the lure of excitement and fame-
But the memories surrounding the grand hoopla,
Don’t compare to my guilt and my shame.
I left my child his first Christmas,
And traveled off to share in some fun-
Casting aside my God given blessing,
The gift of my beautiful son.
Another babe born one December
Bid me get down on my knees
He said “Give me your guilt and your troubles’
And instead I’ll give life freeing peace.”
Have you left this child at Christmas?
Is shopping the name of your game?
Have parties and presents consumed you?
Is busyness the thing you can blame?
Don’t leave the Child out of Christmas
Remember His most holy Name
Accept the gift he wishes to give you
Remember the reason He came.
No, we don’t need another poem about Christmas
But I’m thankful for all God has done
And I’m writing in praise and thanksgiving
For Jesus, God’s most Precious Son.
God's inspiration always seems to come thru at my lonliest times. I just wish I would remember that before I start to complain.
Lysa,
I have felt this way so many times here in my town - I haven't connected with people here the way I have in places I have lived in the past. I want to - it's just not happening. So I know this feeling of loneliness. Add to that a very tough personal year, and I thank God daily that I am never completely alone - He is with me.
Lysa, thanks for sharing your heart. I think many of us can understand and it is very helpful to have those emotions put into words. God bless you! :-) Amy
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Lysa -
You were a true friend to me today...Thank you. Who else in my life would sprint (yes, full throttle) after my very ornery dog during our morning run in the frigid weather. Maya just couldn't stop herself, could she? She thought she just HAD to have the neighbor's newspaper and then tease you with it down the street. I enjoyed the moment, at your expense...! You sure can run fast my kind friend. I was very impressed. Thanks for rescuing me from an embarrassing situation - You're the best!
Felt the same way at church this last week...
I know someone who is struggling with the very things Tracie's book is about.
I am new yto reading your blog and have felt right at home immediately. Thanks so very much for sharing your thoughts and wisdom. It hits right on the bullseve!
Your newest post speaks to all of us at one point or another. Thanks for sharing.
thanks for sharing with us. please enter me.
Lysa, Oh the truth behind that simple song, "Jesus Loves Me". My father was recently in the hospital and had to have lots of pain meds and two separate surgeries. During some of the very hard times, when we weren't sure he was going to make it my mom said the only way she could settle him down was to sing Jesus Loves Me to him and he instantly calmed down. It just goes to show how much power there is in His name. The power to calm and comfort was very evident with my dad. I pray that you will feel His arms wrap around you during those times of loneliness. I have also been there recently. Thanks for being so open and honest. I guess I need to say that I'd like to be entered to win, but more than that , may we both join together to pray for each other and all who have been and are currently lonely.
I can completely understand where you are coming from. I have felt alone many times, especially in a new setting where others have known each other for awhile. Knowing how this feels, I always go out of my way to make others feel welcome when they are a newcomer. And, yes, you are correct - we are never alone.
I just want to highlight the above posts by "dearly loved" and "a moment in time". I loved the prayer "dearly loved" offered and will write it down and keep it with me, if that's okay! "A moment in time" brings up a wonderful point that we should ask God to show us the truth and what we can learn from the situation, but that ultimately he does know us and fully accepts and adores us! We are never mislabeled in His eyes!
Thank you so much for your comments today. I have felt the same way & been in the same type of situation so often the past few months. Thanks for the reminder that Jesus loves me, insecurities and all. I know that, but sometimes it's nice to hear it from someone else.
Heather
We must be twin daughters from the same mother! I have snapped at the hubby, children, birds at the feeder etc., all because of one insensitive remark. Help me, Lord Jesus to give back this hurt and lay it at your feet. AMEN.
Lysa, thank you so much for this blog. I am a little late on posting my comment but it touched me so much. I know this feeling oh so well. To be alone in a crowd has been a part of my life most of my life. Only recently have I begun to see that I am truly not alone there though I may feel lonely. I have never been good at starting conversation or interaction with others so these types of situations are hard for me but I have found recently that I refuse to let Satan keep me away from them with that fear of them. I will not give him that power anymore. God brought me through my past to teach me so much and to show me I don't have to be and won't be accepted by everyone but I will always be loved by Him.
As I age, I find myself turning more inward. My personality used to be very much an extrovert! It is a strange feeling to feel along even though you may be surrounded by people. I have dealt with depression for most of my life. The medications help,but faith is a big necessity for me. Thanks,Cindi
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